Bob Newhart-Stop It

A 6-minute Bob Newhart clip from MadTV that is guaranteed[1] to fix all your problems: ▶ this video (tl;dw: stop it!) > But the work is tedious enough that I am too tried in the evening to do something interesting. Same; sounds normal. > Have you been able to detach yourself from the constant flow of information and focus on your own stuff? I put the xbox in the closet for while and made it just a little harder to indulge the impulse. Don't tell yourself you have to swear off podcasts or HN or whatever forever—just ask yourself if you'd be willing to try a brief but significant break, and make sure you have some ideas for what you'll replace it with. I also rarely spend free time programming. Once in a while I'll get an idea and the motivation to do so, but I find that if I spend a significant chunk of my productive/creative energy during the day on work, I'm much happier if I then spend the rest of the day socializing, exercising, doing stuff around the house—basically anything not in front of the computer. Habit change can be daunting, but the hardest part is often recognizing something that you want to change, and you're already there! Good luck with the rest :) 1) Not.

Stop it? I'm sorry to send you this video, but maybe it will help. ▶ this video Most of these wounds are self inflicted and you can start solving them one by one, mainly by stopping your bad habits. Stop working 90 hrs a week for your employer. Don't let them exploit you. Don't give up your free time voluntarily. Stop working for this company and start interviewing at other companies. Prioritize a place where you have a couple of colleauges that you can learn from, and socialize. You will learn from them, and you will also learn that they are not perfect, maybe you stop treating yourself so harshly. You don't need to start with FAANG, just find a place where you can learn at a healthy 40 hrs (or less) rate. You can practice leet coding, but do not put to much pressure on yourself. Just solve two problems a day, in a year you will be probably ready for interviewing at FAANG companies. If what you say is true and you can ship things, you are good at mobile and web, on call, etc, you can probably get a significant raise, too. Start looking for a new job, and even if you feel down, try to fake that you feel confident. Stop accepting on call duty without compensation. Stop thinking you are just simply "bad at networking". It's a skill that can be improved if you actually want to improve it. Start even if you think you are "lame", go to meetups, apply to jobs, start a running club, or anything, just take small steps and start improving your networking skills as soon as possible. Stop pa

I don't know if your doctor or anyone in this thread is aware of the classic Bob Newhart sketch: ▶ this video

You know the service that Bob Newhart provided, as a psychologist? He charged 5$ for 5 minutes. I'd be willing to do that for 1$. Ref. ▶ this video

> What you can do, and have done, is claim that aspie sensitivities are more important than female ones because aspies are somehow a greater contribution to the world. Not at all what I claimed. I'm talking about overly sensitive people, not women. I know tons and tons and tons of people, women included, who are not overly sensitive and who are able to handle situations like an adult and focus on the task at hand, which in the case of open source is building software and writing code. It's not a therapy session. It's about building things and that is more important than feelings. Your feelings are my distraction. I'm actually the go-between at work between those people think are assholes and some people that are overly sensitive. I quietly hate the role I play and wish I didn't have to waste time trying to protect people from their emotions. It's exhausting. The overly sensitive people often hijack technical discussions and try to make those discussions about something that matters to them personally and that makes the discussion no longer about the code and technical matters that the group is trying to solve. Furthermore, just as many overly-sensitive men as women are responsible for hijacking technical discussions to talk about feelings. In fact, I probably witness men being overly sensitive about some social issue with greater frequency (probably due to base rates in our industry). I also didn't claim that aspies tend to be sexist, but that they tend to either not place im

" there is a not a single study in the history of science which has been able to demonstrate eating at a caloric deficit and gaining weight." That's absolutely right. "takes what is a relatively simple issue and makes it needlessly complex." Human metabolism and psychology is complex. Basically, it's the most complex system that we know of. You can't just throw out psychology and metabolism, and say it doesn't matter, because as long as you eat less calories than you consume you're alright. People have know "calories in vs. calories out" for decades. People are still getting fatter. Maybe if you shout it a bit louder, it will start working? Sorry about the sarcasm, but that's how I feel about the issue. I feel it's a bit like telling a depressed person to just "stop it". Snap out of it! Why are you thinking these bad thoughts? It's bad for you! Stop it! ▶ this video You do touch on this though "(how to ensure someone sticks with the program)", but then seem to gloss over it. You start out saying it's "not complex". If it's not complicated, why is it not solved yet? What you eat, is certainly not everything, but sugar drives behaviour very strongly. More so than other nutrients is my impression. It affects motivation which again affects how well you stick with a program. It's not everything, but it's part of the puzzle. Other things that affect compliance could be, mental health, friends, advertisement, culture, economical situation.. How is this not complicated?

Stop it: ▶ this video You cannot change the past, so do not trouble yourself with what is past. Look forward and plan where you want to go from where you are. Use what you have and keep on keeping on.